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Mamahood. A wilderness of its own kind. This little baby girl has the sweetest personality that lights up the whole room. I didn’t plan on shooting so much this winter since I graduated college, but as it turns out, a lot of my sessions have been new families and babes. Which is fitting at this place in time and helping me learn the intimate dynamics between child and mother. I feel so grateful to be a Bend Oregon family photographer and that I’m invited to witness the beauty that is this special relationship between a mama and her babies. For more information about my Mama & Me Sessions, please inquire using the contact form.
I struggle big time with perfectionism and staying present in the moment. And my guess is that a large number of you guys do as well. Wei (do) Wu-Wei (without doing) is the spontaneous, natural Way that Lao Tzu addressed in the Tao Te Ching. Wei Wu-Wei is action without intentional, forced action or interference — “work without effort.” This concept provides a counterbalance to our society’s drive to engage in swift or forceful action, maintain control, worry about ourselves and others, or fear negative outcomes. In psychotherapy, for example, Yueh-Ting Lee argues that therapists should utilize the concept of Wei Wu-Wei (do without doing) as a checks and balances for the concern they feel for their clients, the advice they offer them, and their clients’ freedom to make their own decisions: “too much intervention … may produce negative outcomes.” Wu-Wei is letting go or letting be. Que Sera, Sera. Jung took this concept so far as to suggest that ANY interference or offering of advice was already too much. But what happens if the scales are tipped to the other side? Human beings who hold on too tightly are prone to transforming their assertiveness into aggression, becoming “hooked” (google Pema Chondron) and resorting to violence, inflexibility, war, and general competitiveness in all areas of life. And the benefits of Lao’s Wei Wu-Wei way of life are humility, modesty, quietness, wisdom, and a general helpfulness, compassion, and loving-kindness toward others. Perhaps the assumption we must make in order to understand Jung’s extreme letting go is the understanding that we never had control to begin with. Instead, Laotzi prescribes water personality:
Nothing in the world is as soft and yielding as water.
Yet for dissolving the hard and inflexible, nothing can surpass it.
The soft overcomes the hard; the gentle overcomes the rigid.
Everyone knows this is true, but few can put it into practice.
I hope this helps you breathe a little easier.
More on Wei Wu Wei & Water Personality here.
“A woman is the full circle. Within her is the ability to create, nurture, and transform.” – Diane Mariechild
I’ve been preoccupied with feelings of inadequacy as my due date approaches at breakneck speed. I wake up every morning trying to plan for unforeseen changes to come. As a first-time mom, I’m excited and looking forward to having my own baby to spend time with and to raise a family with a man I already respect so much as a dad. But I’m also TERRIFIED of being a mom. I was a nanny (mostly a live-in one at that) for many years, so it’s not that I fear not knowing how to change diapers, maintain a sleep schedule, or feed a kid. And I was even a know-it-all / hardass nanny who had all of these things down pat in the interest of someone else’s beloved child and family. But now that I’m going to have my own child, I fear that I won’t know what I’m doing, I’m scared I won’t bond with my baby in the same kind of ways, and I worry that I won’t maintain a lot of those healthy behaviors and patterns that once fit so easily into childcare routines. Mostly I am preoccupied with *how* this new identity is going to fit me. WHO will I be? Certainly not the me I know so well now. My body is already changing. Pregnancy alone has been uncomfortable, awkward, and painful. This baby is already changing my world.
My only comfort is knowing how many millions of women before me made this identity shift into motherhood from a previous autonomous lifestyle. And knowing how many amazing women are in my life who have managed to hold onto the key pieces of their identities without compromise, all the while being incredible parents to beautiful babies. This is the collective courage and grace I call upon these winter days.
Kristy is a Bend Oregon Based Wedding & Engagement Photographer who enjoys talking about her recent dive into motherhood and holistic living.
There is so much freedom when a wedding or portrait client hires you and 100% trusts you as an artist. The potential to create something magical, moving, and original is not limited by fear or hesitation on either side. It’s almost as though the usually needed (and introvert-required) inspiration is not a factor at all in the final product because every person is just being and the flow is carrying us all. Mmm. I’m usually needing to feel inspired, otherwise I feel insecure about my position as an artist. But if I lean into who I am, observing who my clients are, and allowing myself to be instead of worry about the presence of a Muse, then I create my most compelling images. This was a gorgeous wedding day at Tetherow, and I pray I get more opportunities to create in an environment facilitated by trust.
See you again, @tetherowweddings, you’re amazing!
Kristy is a Bend, Oregon Wedding Photographer who enjoys the benefits of ecotherapy and advocates holistic living.
Years. I spent years feeling uncomfortable and unsettled here at my home online. I was offering what felt like less than 10% of my true self to you. It’s not that I was intentionally hiding aspects of my life, I just wasn’t sure what I was allowed to say or who I was allowed to be. I mean, I run a business; I assumed that it would suffice to let this space showcase my favorite works. But this mode of online existence was utterly unsatisfying and painful. How many of you feel that way?
And how many ways can one say “I really love this client”? “I was so inspired by this session”? Not that these statements are lies, it is just that they do not connect me to you in any really meaningful way. I never meant my creative spaces to be a window-shopping-only marketplace. This apathy is pervasive on Instagram. And I was bored: hence my lack of posting consistently over the years. As if I wasn’t socially disconnected enough already, I was a #premed student for the last four years, and spent on the upwards of fourteen straight hours of studying at a time. Now I have an 8×10 framed piece of paper that gives me permission to psychoanalyze you anytime I’d like, so watch out.
Anyway, I want to give you more. More of me, more of what I’ve always wanted to share with you, and in the ways I have always meant to share. I remember a more connected version of myself and business in 2007. Remember the internet back then? I changed my business and social media names from Wreckless Creative to This Wild Way because it’s a fresh start that includes being free to be myself — uninhibited, vulnerable, exposed, and honest. I know most of you haven’t met with me in person, but this is the IRL version of me. I’m a wide open book. I don’t know how to have a shallow conversation. It emotionally exhausts me to hold back. And I’ve never lived a conventional life. I left my small hometown to travel the world at nineteen. Now I am living a more settled life seventeen years later. I’m discovering ways to maintain my wildness and protect my freedom by means of art, nutrition, holistic healing, and wellness. Photography was one peek into my life, but I’m excited to offer you more.
Kristy runs This Wild Way – Bend, Oregon Senior Portrait Photography – and her favorite thing on the planet is photographing your senior portrait photography. Please contact me for more information about your senior portraits and custom wardrobe, hair, and makeup styling.
This majestic beast is from one of the most special places to me. I have so many magical memories from my time in Montana over the summers, so it fills my heart with joy that friends over at Companion Coffee House in Bend, Oregon (@companioncoffeehouse) have seen these images enlarged and inquired about obtaining physical fine art prints for themselves. To make it easy, I created a special gallery just for prints in the event that you want this gorgeous creature or other images in your Home.
If you’re interested in any other fine art prints, you can reach out and inquire at email@example.com. I’d love to connect with you. Kristy is the primary photographer and vagabond at This Wild Way – wedding, engagement, portrait, and travel photography based in beautiful Bend, Oregon and she travels worldwide.
Whether or not you put any stock into astrology, I want to provide you with symbolism to help you understand why this Scorpio (fall-to-winter) season and transition feels so emotionally intense every year. Women, especially listen in.
According to Greek mythology (or at least my understanding of it), Artemis (Roman Diana) was born the daughter of Zeus. And right after she was born, she became a midwife who assisted her mother in delivering her twin brother. (Whoa, so I guess I shouldn’t be so concerned with birthing my own child in March as long as a newborn can do it!) She is now revered as the goddess and protectress of childbirth. Artemis became a huntress, a nature and wild animal lover, and she never let any lover steal her eternal virginity. Artemis and her friend Orion often hunted together, which made Artemis’s twin brother, the god Apollo, insanely jealous. Enraged, he commissioned Mother Earth to create a giant scorpion that murdered Orion with a sting. Another myth is that Apollo tricked his sister Artemis into killing Orion the hunter with her own bow and arrow. These stories demonstrate how abruptly and violently relationships and situations can end. Artemis was overtly competitive and fiercely independent. The weak and regressive may feel intimidated by her lack of intimacy, but for those who are inspired by her fierceness, her story offers strength, efficiency, and personal growth. Survival of the fittest, babe. So in this intense season, channel her strength and self-sufficiency and do something terrifying and that feels powerful. Now is the time. Make a big change. Confidently end a toxic relationship. Commit to chastity. Whatever it is, be fierce.
@heavenmcarthur gifted me time to chat with Vanessa Cuoto (FB @LiminalJourneys) for my birthday present a few years ago. Vanessa showed me how mythology, astrology, and psychology form a psychologically useful trio that helps us process what has happened in our pasts and what is happening in our lives currently, and how to be the strongest and yet softest versions of ourselves. I highly recommend scheduling a coaching session as it quite literally changed my life in ways I couldn’t predict.
Kristy is the primary senior portrait and women photographer at This Wild Way – Wedding, Engagement, Portrait, and Travel Photography based in Bend, Oregon – and a wild advocate holistic and psychologically balanced living.